Do any of us question how people will perceive when we're gone ? It's about our key members, not people who may interact with us day-to-day basis more seems frequent (ie. our boss, colleague in office). Or do we even question ourselves who is actually the most important person to our life ? These are the interesting problem statement which can steer ourselves in our life for decades next. Ultimately, we will address how importance of purpose of our life.
To me, it's perfectly slapped my face. I may not have a sufficient chance to take a look those question that somehow really matters. This is the bridge to my leadership training that i join where I feel this is very life-changing experience. This training is commonly doing by corporation, named 7 Habit Training. Whoever has constructed this recipe of habit, the bottom line is it gives a valid reason to consider this as life changing experience.
I am try remember what the exact wording of this 7 Habit Training describes the habit just like best student in the class. However, I put my feeling and sense where I try embodied this in my paradigm (where this becomes the most critical one to start to implement). If i can summarize this 7 Habit talks all about 3 word : 1. Paradigm Shift ; 2. Private Victory ; and 3. Public Victory.
The journey of complete happiness are we have a right character to reach Private Victory, then we manage people to synergize where we get public victory. Character is something that has built from habit over many years. It's like root of a tree, whenever we have a strong root (character), no matter how strong the storm, tree will be stand still. With this character we can bring our self to be the one who Proactive (not reactive, because reactive consumed energy and happiness), can clearly understand the end-in-mind, and last but not least can put the first thing first. With this habit we can win the war in ourselves.
Then, Public Victory is how the big tree is looked good in appearance. Even though, in within people don't know what happen, but we can manage our appearance to be OK no matter what happens. It starts with seek understanding before to be understood, think win-win, and synergy. When interacting with people we must be a good listener where we know what the real problem should be addressed, never do the quick judgment. In addition, to ensure we are in the same page, we should have a courage to speak up. Which here we some time have a hesitance to speak up, because we feel we will do something wrong. This 7 Habit taugt us to asses the Emotional Bank of Account (EBA). Whenever we did good to our stakeholders, we shouldn't be worried that they will have a negative judgement to you. After we can have a good same start, we know discuss on option where world are not built in ideal way. However we should think win-win. This mindset taught us to look at the vast opportunity, not only see the only option that we firstly see. With all above mindset, we can really have a good synergy that make us good externally.
So, those are some small learnings where we can start to pick up and implement in our day-to-day. This is not an overnight learning and implementation in tomorrow, then we got full value. Its a long process where discipline is needed. And there might not be a complete habit to be implemented at once. It can be done once step at a time too. Good luck for us.
AI Assesment & Refinement Suggestion :
| Area | Issue | Example |
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| Grammar & flow | Many sentences feel translated, not natural | “perfectly slapped my face” |
| Redundancy | Same ideas repeated | Character / tree analogy stretched |
| Clarity | Some ideas unclear / vague | “big tree appearance externally” |
| Tone | Not yet executive-level | Slightly informal & inconsistent |
| Punch | Lacks strong closing impact | Ending feels soft |
Have we ever paused to ask ourselves a difficult question:
how will people remember us when we are no longer around?
Not our bosses. Not colleagues we interact with daily.
But the few people who truly matter in our lives.
And more importantly —
do we even know who those people are?
These are uncomfortable questions, but they shape how we lead our lives over the long term.
Recently, I went through a leadership program based on The 7 Habits.
To be honest, it was a moment of reflection that felt like a wake-up call.
I realized that I rarely stopped to think about these fundamental questions —
despite how important they are.
If I simplify the essence of the 7 Habits, it comes down to three ideas:
- Paradigm Shift – how we see the world and ourselves
- Private Victory – mastering ourselves
- Public Victory – building meaningful relationships with others
Everything starts from character.
Like the roots of a tree —
if the roots are strong, the tree can withstand any storm.
Private Victory is about building that foundation:
- Being proactive, not reactive
- Starting with the end in mind
- Putting first things first
It’s about winning the battle within ourselves.
Only then can we move to Public Victory —
how we show up and create value with others.
This includes:
- Seek first to understand, then to be understood
- Think win-win
- Create synergy
It sounds simple, but it requires discipline — especially in moments where:
- We are quick to judge
- We hesitate to speak up
- We prioritize being right over being effective
One concept that stood out to me is the Emotional Bank Account.
Trust is not built instantly — it’s earned through consistent actions over time.
My biggest takeaway:
this is not something you “complete” after a training.
It’s a continuous process.
There is no overnight transformation —
only small, consistent improvements, one step at a time.
And maybe that’s the real question we should ask ourselves:
Are we intentionally becoming the person we want to be remembered as?
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